If you are a stay-at-home mom and homemaker you’ve no doubt heard, too many times, the question, “Do you work or just stay home?” People seem to think that, unless you get a paycheck, you don’t work. There’s no job that takes more time with fewer material rewards and no other job that can be as rewarding emotionally and spiritually than being a homemaker. So while others may not, it’s important that you respect yourself as a homemaker.
As a full-time homemaker you have qualities you may not realize. Let me help you recognize some of your strengths.
You are intelligent. You’re probably managing the finances or at least making the decisions about purchasing cleaning materials, cooking supplies, food, and health and hygiene items. You are primarily responsible for raising the children. It’s your observation, creativity, and problem-solving that keeps your home running smoothly. You are the systems manager, facilities manager, financial manager, and scheduling manager. I could go on but you get the idea.
You are resourceful and imaginative. You are the one who provides, even if not monetarily, the basic needs of your family. You ensure the nutrition of your family, keep them and their clothing clean, and provide comfort. You even manage most of the leisure time activities. You plan vacations from destination to what each person must pack. And you do all this while keeping an eye on the finances.
You self-manage. Not only do you manage the family’s life but you manage yourself. It’s your ability to control your own feelings, physical and mental health, and emotions that allow your family and home to function smoothly.
You are determined. No matter what the issue, you will find a way. You don’t give up because things are rough or you’re tired. Most homemakers don’t stop even when they’re sick. You decide the goals for your family life and you tirelessly pursue them.
You are enthusiastic. You are interested in the activities of being a good homemaker and work with enthusiasm to become more skillful. This doesn’t mean you love scrubbing toilets but you do everything for your family and home with gusto and pride. Your enthusiasm is contagious. Family members become fired up about the things that you are enthusiastic about.
You are adaptable. The life of a homemaker means you are able to adjust to ever-changing situations. It may be as small as a change of schedules during the week or as major as adapting to a completely new lifestyle but you are able to acclimate. You deal with altered financial situations, medical emergencies, and even deaths and keep your family moving forward.
You are understanding and empathetic. You recognize the individual needs of your family and those around you. You can relate to people in a crisis. Because of your empathy and understanding you can solve problems efficiently and maintain healthy relationships.
You have good judgement skills. Being a homemaker means you have to solve problems, be fair to each member of your family, and make sound decisions for everything relating to the running of your home. You analyze problems, and use imagination and common sense to run your home from children’s issues to dealing with repairmen.
You are imaginative. You can anticipate problems and solve them before they occur. You create action plans and come up with ideas to keep things on track. You use your imagination for everything from choosing paint color to creating delicious, inexpensive meals.
You have the ability to communicate. You can explain your ideas, reasoning, and solutions to problems clearly and effectively. Your communication skills help build strong bonds between family members. Through your aptitude for communication you provide guidance and encouragement.
You exercise self-control. In times of great stress you are the one who is calm. In an emergency or a death you are the one who can handle the necessary details. Your self-control is an example to your family. You don’t allow your temper to get the best of you. You show self-control when you go to bed early because of a busy day ahead or when you take time to exercise to maintain your physical health.
Even if some people don’t realize your value to your family, friends, and society, remember you are a remarkable woman. Never forget to respect yourself as a homemaker!