Forced Intimacy: An Ableist Norm

Having find myself, too often, being to accept the touch of strangers I found this article important.

Leaving Evidence

Photo of my wheelchair in a dark room, silhouetted against a doorway, with a large shirt outlined in lights hanging against a dark wall.

“Forced Intimacy” is a term I have been using for years to refer to the common, daily experience of disabled people being expected to share personal parts of ourselves to survive in an ableist world. This often takes the form of being expected to share (very) personal information with able bodied people to get basic access, but it also includes forced physical intimacy, especially for those of us who need physical help that often requires touching of our bodies. Forced intimacy can also include the ways that disabled people have to build and sustain emotional intimacy and relationships with someone in order to get access—to get safe, appropriate and good access.

I have experienced forced intimacy my entire life as a disabled child, youth and adult…

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Meatless Surprise Wrapped in Mystery

These look so delicious I had to share! Dolly is an amazing cook and storyteller!


Churchill described Russia’s actions as “a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma.”


Almost fifty years before the brilliant British statesman issued his famous phrase, a Russian artist Sergei Malyutin had a similar idea. Tzar Nicholas II, who ascended the Russian throne in 1894, promoted Russian culture, arts, and crafts. Granted, in a way it was an attempt to dissuade public resentment of his German wife. However, the Tzar himself had a hobby to which he would dedicate most of his time and attention – woodcarving. The monarch’s hobby inspired so-called “Russian style” in arts, specifically focused on the old-fashioned village children’s toys.  The royal family sponsored a workshop called “Children’s Nurturing” which created dolls dressed in regional Russian national costumes. It is in this workshop that Malyutin conceived the idea of a nestling doll that took the world by a storm and became a symbol and epitome of…

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Why I won’t accept my illness, but I’ll accept the battle

A brilliant post by an inspirational young woman!


I was once asked what I’ve learned from living with an incurable disease. I didn’t reallyhave a determinate answer, but I did say having chronic illness has given me adeeper compassion, one I can’t quiteexplain. Being a young woman in her mid-20s, most people think I’m in perfecthealth.However, on the outside, I look nothing like what my body has really felt like for the past three years.

Swelling, joint pain, raw stiffness, throbbing muscles, needle-burning pain and fatigue were just some of the things my body woke to one September morning in Colorado. My body was not my own; everything from my knees, shoulders, hips and hands were all in pain. I limped to my bathroom to brush my teeth, but my hand couldn’t hold the toothbrush.

I did the best I could that morning despite theoverwhelming confusion and drove to work…

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The Homeless on Happiness – Pt 2 – Jack

Jack is the kind of person who will overcome!

Gnarly Shanti

I feel extremely fortunate to have met Jack; one of the most open and charismatic people I have ever come across.

Jack has attempted suicide three times, at least one of which he blames on anti-depressants.

“SSRIs in particular” he says “send me from the most extreme highs to being completely and utterly suicidal”.

I asked him if he thinks anti-depressants are overprescribed these days.

“Definitely; on such a big scale. But it’s not the fault of the NHS because they’re under so much pressure. Appointment times are getting smaller, they’re facing cuts everywhere and so it’s much easier to prescribe Prozac or whatever than providing more time consuming, talking based approaches like CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy)”.

Jack’s main philosophy on happiness is that everything is a choice.

“We’re not just at the mercy of what happens to us, we cannot change the hand we’ve been dealt, but we can change how…

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Meet and Greet: 5/26/17

Danny’s Meet & Greets are always a way to find great new blogs! C’mon and join in the fun!

Dream Big, Dream Often


It’s the Meet and Greet weekend everyone!! Strap on your party shoes and join the fun!

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Patriotic Pasta Salad

What could be more patriotic than a red, white, and blue pasta salad at your Memorial Day or 4th of July barbecue? Serve a simple, classic pasta salad and an all-American side dish when you make Patriotic Pasta Salad!

Patriotic Pasta Salad is a familiar taste with a colorful new look!

Patriotic Pasta Salad